How important are first experiences with nutrition? The first food we receive comes from our mother, inside the womb through the umbilical cord and in turn the emotional food where as a baby you feel your mother’s emotions as your own and you feed on them. Once you are born, while you are fed, generally by your mother, you satisfy your hunger but at the same time you do not receive only milk. The contact, the caresses, the warmth and the entire presence of the mother provide you with the experience of protection, love and attention.
The relationship we have with food is a faithful reflection of the relationship we had with our mother when we were fed. Everyone who has an issue with food unconsciously rejects their mother and the emotional food that their mother gave them, since by rejecting the food you are rejecting her. The rejection could be because while you were being breastfed your mother was going through grief, or her own mother’s illness, relationship problems, sadness, loneliness, helplessness or whatever and was not completely available to you at that time in your life.
Maybe she was sad, worried about the circumstances she was experiencing that had nothing to do with you, but that you took personally and hence your anger/discomfort towards her, the rejection because she didn’t give you what you needed. She has always done the best she could and has the right to have her fears and limitations, like any human being, which is why it is so important to work with this issue and heal the relationship with your mother, otherwise it will be repeated when you have children because no one can. give you what you don’t have. You may have been disappointed at one point when you were little, but what makes you suffer is your perception of events and not the events themselves. You can change this perception first with professional help, being able to feel again like that baby or girl that you were who felt helpless, disappointed by her mother to be able to release the emotion that was left there during all these years, to be able to express that anger, helplessness, sadness or Whatever you felt that generated that rejection towards her and her food and then acceptance towards her and her way of nurturing you emotionally will come, which is what she was able to do at that moment according to her life circumstances and concerns and you know. By completely accepting her you will learn to accept the woman in you and you will recover your taste for life, for food and later if you choose to have children you will be able to nourish them in a different way, neither better nor worse, just different, with awareness.
Rosa
