WHEN FEMALE FURY TRANSFORMS, WE WAKE UP.
“When sleeping women wake up, mountains move”
Feminine fury is a molten pool at the core of being, a fiercely guarded secret. We know as a woman of powerful feelings, that she is intertwined in this web of fury. It is an electrical thread woven into every tapestry of the emotional world upon which you lay the foundations of your life: boiling hot springs ready to erupt at any moment, leaping from your consciousness like a fire across the landscape. Training this fury precisely, rather than denying it, is one of the most important tasks in a woman’s life.
I remember a dear friend telling me that when I got angry I was beautiful, powerful, vibrant and very present.
And it’s true, over the years I realized after many experiences, internal and external work, that my power was imprisoned. I was afraid to show my fury and my strength, because I believed they wouldn’t love me.
Most of the time we live drowning an internal part that wants to come to the surface, ventilate, breathe so that we learn to live in peace with all our contradictions.
The truth is that now I love having found my fury and having known it, savored it. It is a fury that helps me interpret all my projections differently.
I also found on this path the fury of many women, buried beneath the history of the victors in the legends. That fury that is born from having half of the world systematically hated by war, by misery and hopelessness.
It is a fury that most women carry deep in the collective unconscious. A fury that remembers those who ignored, those who prohibited, those who hid and lied, those who sanctified the spilled blood of the women of the world. Those who continue to watch from their altars, their podiums, their royal and presidential balconies, the spectacle of women collecting the remains of their girls with their hands cut off.
This fury that deeply accompanies the female psyche, I hope it never goes away and that it does not move away from my word and my foot, but that it moves and takes me away to spread it like a fire. I hope it stays with me so I can express it creatively, to paint it on all the walls, so that it sounds like the cry of the women who could not defend themselves, those who continue to mourn their dead, those who walk and continue despite their pain, those who do not have a word…
This anger is a good thing. It is something clean and fearless. It’s a good way to start walking again, to see myself as someone I had already forgotten. And it’s a relief.
Yes, it is a relief because to forgive and rebuild you have to feel, release and understand.
What can we do to transform our anger?
First define it and understand what gifts it brings us.
Fury is a basic instinct, which serves to protect us. Fury and rage are normal and healthy emotions. They are feelings that affect the entire body and we can see what story they want to tell us.
Obviously we can feel anger without expressing it directly. It is okay to experience feelings of anger throughout the body, knowing that we can work through the anger and transform it into positive energy.
Anger is an indicator of when someone has gotten in our way or is exploiting us. Anger also tells us what our beliefs and values are. It tells us that we are alive, that we are healthy people and capable of experiencing feelings.
The second would be to identify what triggers your anger.
Which are your fears? Compare them with the feelings and emotions collected in the story of your fury; Perhaps fear of abandonment, economic insecurity, lack of power, imperfection or failure appear.
Do these themes repeat themselves in your life? To discover what scares you and in what situations it is triggered, you have to ask yourself every time you are angry……….. Why do I feel threatened? A look? A comment? A critic? A social injustice? Do I feel threatened by someone? By the action of someone? Because of my own inner feelings?
When we begin to explore what triggers our anger, we discover a long history that usually revolves around the same problem.
How to transform it?
More than once I have heard women say… “When I feel angry, I know that I am alive and I know that something is going to change.” Others believe that this fury gives them a strength that makes them feel capable of performing incredible feats, others experience it. like a fire energy that burns them internally.
These are different ways of perceiving the opening of fury to transform it into energy, determination, strength, vigor and action.
Female rage or fury shows us all a powerful message:
Anger is part of our own nature.
Women of the 21st century, whether from the artistic, literary or spiritual world, all of them in different ways explain why fury permeates the lives of women and why we need to realize it.
Remember……….When you are a stranger to yourself, you are also a stranger to others.
Rosa Puerto
Painting -author Rosa Puerto Title “releasing fury” 2009
