A toxic mother can make your life very uncomfortable if you don’t know how to identify her in time…According to the saying, “there is only one mother.” Which is lucky if you had to have one of these toxic mothers. The good thing about recognizing them is that it allows you to take care of their toxic attitudes towards you (whether conscious or unconscious), and most importantly: you can avoid becoming a toxic mother yourself.
1. Contemptuous
A contemptuous mother is one who, no matter what you do, will never be enough. If you had a high grade at school, I would ask you why you didn’t have the highest grade. If you got the highest grade, he would complain that you weren’t a good athlete.
The problem with this type of mother is that as they grow up, their daughters often feel undervalued and unsure of themselves.
2. Controller
A controlling mother is one who suffocates her daughter, does not let her make decisions or choose, but rather manages her life in every way she can, under the motto “it is for your own good.” These mothers often raise daughters who feel insecure and helpless.
3. Inaccessible or absent
The unavailable or absent mother is there physically, but she is emotionally unavailable to her children. Attitudes range from lack of physical contact to ignoring the child’s needs and, of course, actual abandonment.
This often causes children to have insatiable emotional hunger and feel desperately needed.
4. Creeper
At the opposite pole to the absent mother is the vine mother, who clings so tightly to her children that she ends up suffocating them. This type of mother does not recognize the boundaries between her life and her children’s lives, so she continues to be present and intervene when she should let them live their own lives.
5. Combative
Combative mothers are those who, almost always unconsciously, compete with their daughters, denigrating or criticizing them mercilessly to bring them down to their own level. Their children often suffer from exaggerated guilt and shame as they become adults.
6. Unstable
These are mothers who one day are in a good mood and laughing with their children, and the next are angry and shouting about anything. The unstable mother is one of those who confuse and harm children the most, because it does not allow them to develop a stable emotional relationship.
7. Selfish
A selfish mother often develops a light emotional attachment to her children, using manipulation and control to make herself proud in front of others and feel good about herself. A clear example of this case is Cinderella’s stepmother, who used her stepdaughter for her own purposes. If you had a toxic mother, identifying it will help you better if you have problems relating to relationships as an adult, as well as avoid becoming one.
R.Puerto
